Unifying Your Fear of the Unknown VS Your Surrender into It
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Unifying Your Fear of the Unknown VS Your Surrender into It

By July 21, 2020 October 2nd, 2021 6 Comments

WHAT’S IN THIS POST FOR YOU:

By reading my account of the challenge of being in the unknown, you will gain insights into your own relationship to the unknown. If you can apply these words to your own life, you may gain a great gift of deep surrender.

SUMMARY & CONTEXT:

I describe to you my internal journey through the discomfort and surrender of being in the unknown…and ultimately finding peace and discernment.

THE POST:

I am unifying….

A: the part of me DEMANDING to know what’s next

and

B: the part of me embracing the Void in which I’m in.

Fact: I have to move from where I have been loving to live. Of course that kicks me into the Void, again. As you all can probably relate, the Void just keeps “comin’ around.“

The more dynamic our lives are, then the more transitions we face.

The framework in which I like to hold “transitions” is that of Entering The Void Again. In other words, it’s a time when we do not know what is next.

The Part DEMANDING

We are in the unknown. And oh my God, does our left brain, limbic system, an old brain all squawk about this! Being in the unknown feels to them as if we’re plunged into survival mode.
Then too, other parts of us join this fear party. The inner critic, the insecure one, and the self-doubting parts of us all band together to YELL:
  • You shouldn’t be here.
  • You fucked up.
  • So figure it out!
  • Figure it out now!
  • If you don’t figure it out NOW, you’re going to die!

The Part EMBRACING

On the other hand, I can not only surrender into being in the unknown but actually relish in it. I realize how important this surrendered part of me is. Being in the void is actually a rich, creative journey. I want to increase my capacity to be in the void, and yet still feel strong, self-caring, relating to others in life — not withdrawn, scared and negative.

How I Unify These Two Seemingly Conflictual Parts

I choose to not give them an equal voice. I chose to lovingly but firmly regard the part of me which is driven to “figure it out,” as a junior, less mature, less holistic part. It’s to be included, but not allowed to drive the car.
I chose to regard the part that embraces the void as the senior, more mature, more holistic, more enlightened part of me. It includes the junior part, and drives the car.
It’s as if I am a parent talking lovingly but firmly to a child, to the scared/driven part. Saying things like “I hear you, I know you’re there, I know your scared, but I see a bigger picture and I’m going to go with that now. You can come along for the ride, but you’re not going to drive this process. I want to include you, even derive any wisdom you have for me, yet I am choosing to be in the Void — and even enjoy it.”

NOW FOR YOUR TURN…

How do YOU enjoy the process of being in the void, and actually use it for your bio-psycho-spiritual transformation? I’d love for you to share with our lovely, conscious community your own experience with unifying these same two parts … or other seeming opposites you are unifying.

You have two options:

1. Comment Below: I’d love for you to share with our lovely, conscious community your own experience with unifying these same parts … or other seeming opposites you are unifying in the comments below.

2. Join Our Facebook Group and Share Your Comment There: You are also welcome to share your answer in our Facebook community, The Unifying Way Community, where we all share what we’re unifying and discuss the further deepening of this practice. We’d love your presence in the group.

 

Thanks,

Freddy

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Frederic

a 45 year counselor, adventurer, traveler, and UNIFIER.

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